Six Things Short Hair Taught Me
“I’ll believe it when I see it.”
That’s what my hairdresser said to me when I told her that one day I would cut my hair. For whatever reason, I always envisioned that I would cut all of my hair off when I was in high school. I guess I believed that I would have more confidence or somehow become a magical, spontaneous girl the minute I stepped foot in those halls. But my freshman year of high school? That was not the case.
I wanted a long bob so badly. I wanted to change it up, to try something new. Fifteen years old and absolutely mortified of all of the possible things that could go wrong. The hair situation was a direct reflection of my extreme insecurity and constant search of approval from others.
I think I have to credit my swimming days because the chlorine damage six years of competitive swimming does to you is not pretty. One day I just decided it all had to go. Running to my mom, I eagerly asked her to schedule me a haircut (god do I miss the days I had my mom around). Despite the friends who thought my idea was not so grand, I sat in that chair shaking like a madman as 7 inches of (ridiculously thick) hair fell to the floor. Just like that, my hair was gone.
Learning lessons from my new hairstyle were not things I planned on. Shoulder length hair left me no reason to believe that I was changing my ‘destined path’ or whatever, but the past three years have proved me wrong.
1.It’s Just Hair
Hair grows back!! Cutting your hair and not liking the result is nowhere near end of the world. Heck put it in a ponytail for two months if you hate it that much, but if you have a good stylist, I think everything will be fine. My point is that you should not not cut your hair for fear of failure or embarrassment or whatever that little voice in the back of your head is telling you. Hair is fixable! There are many options. It’s important to test the waters, but sometimes you don’t know until you jump.
2. Don’t listen to them
Ummm this is one of my favorite quotes of all time. Believe me; I’m a quote girl, so that’s saying something. There’s a preconceived notion that males are more attracted to long hair but who actually gives a shit. Lady! You do it for you. You don’t do it for your boyfriend or the friends who like your long locks. YOU DO IT FOR YOU.
3. Messy buns are the besttttt
A loose, out of control topknot has become my identity (seriously! I wrote a whole blog post on that here). A cute, long bob is the perfect amount of hair to twirl into a bun. Dress it up for a chic look or hit the gym. Easily diversified!
4. You have your own style for a reason- don’t waste it
Remember how I told you about my slight people pleasing problem? All that time that I spent trying so hard to fit in, to look like the girl next to me for fear of judgment if I didn’t. Well, nothing too great ever came out of that!
Once I cut my hair, that slight change in appearance gave just the slightest ounce of authenticity to my identity. Truthfully that’s what I needed, to feel like I was something. Not a replica of every other freshman girl I walked past every day, but me. Cutting off all of your hair kinda feels like “Hey! If I did that, I can do anything” (at least in terms of style). The shorter look paved more way for exploration in my style.
5. Be Patient and enjoy the present
I’m currently growing out my hair. The three years served me well, but it’s time to mix things up. When the executive decision was made, I dreaded the long process of growing my hair back out (because nobody likes the in-between phase, right?). But then I stopped and thought, what’s just so bad about the in-between phase?
I hopped onto my trusty Pinterest page and created a board for mid-length hairstyles. Quickly, I realized how much I could pull off an in-between phase.
Why rush it? Our world is continuously bouncing from one extreme to another. We go from 0-100 real quick. So a mid-length look is teaching me a much-needed lesson in enjoying the now.
6. You have control
Okay, let’s back up. You don’t have control over a lot of things and certainly don’t need me to explain that to you. But your hair? Your style? The clothes you wear and passions you follow. Girl you’ve got control over that! So take those small but mighty decisions to your advantage and be the person you were always meant to be.
All the love,